He who blesses his friend with a loud voice, rising early in the morning, it will be counted a curse to him (Proverbs 27:14).
This proverb is one that I have lived. I’m a morning person, Anna is not. Enough said? Some folks are 0-90 in the morning, and others are a slow build. After a few cups of coffee and some silence they are ready to go. So, for this knucklehead (me) to go around the house blasting the Beatles on the radio at 6:30 a.m. is a really bad idea!
This proverb is about knowing how to be appropriate, and how to approach people and situations properly. Your personality and the way you want to be approached may not be the same way others want to be approach. This requires humility, wisdom and seeking advice. It also means that sometimes we really blow it by approaching people the wrong way.
Here is another proverb that speaks to being proper and wise in how we approach things.
Like one who takes away a garment in cold weather, and like vinegar on soda, is one who sings songs to a heavy heart (Proverbs 25:20).
Remember those elementary school science experiments? Baking soda and vinegar…what happens? Well, it erupts and makes a mess! That’s precisely what happens when we try to sing “I’m Happy Today!” to someone who just suffered extreme loss. It erupts and makes a mess.
Here are two passages about learning how to say the right things at the right time. Let’s meditate upon this and pray for God’s wisdom to guide us today in how we approach people and situations.
Walk in wisdom toward those who are outside, redeeming the time. Let your speech always be with grace, seasoned with salt, that you may know how you ought to answer each one (Colossians 4:5-6).
A man has joy by the answer of his mouth, and a word spoken in due season, how good it is! (Proverbs 15:23)