David writes in Psalm 18 about the words he sang on the day God delivered him from all his enemies and the hand of Saul. David writes:
1 I will love You, O Lord, my strength. 2 The Lord is my rock and my fortress and my deliverer; My God, my strength, in whom I will trust; My shield and the horn of my salvation, my stronghold. 3 I will call upon the Lord, who is worthy to be praised; So shall I be saved from my enemies. (Psalm 18:1-3; NKJV)
Peter, after being arrested for preaching the gospel and speaking to the Sanhedrin says of Jesus… “11 This is the ‘stone which was rejected by you builders, which has become the chief cornerstone.’ 12 Nor is there salvation in any other, for there is no other name under heaven given among men by which we must be saved.” (Acts 4:11-12; NKJV)
I thought of these verses in thinking about what kind of husband and father to my daughter I want to be. There are a lot of different challenges to being a good Godly husband and father. One of the most challenging for me is to know what the right thing is to do for my wife or my daughter at any given time. What I want to do is rescue them from whatever is troubling them. I want to be the knight in shining armor, the fixer, the “man”. But I will tell you, this approach often has unforeseen consequences and the disappointment I feel when I get it wrong is crushing at times…and if nothing else confusing and can lower my confidence in myself and what God wants me to do. In the worst case, I get angry and blame my wife or my daughter for not getting me or appreciating me…me, me, me.
What I think about in this context about these verses is this. If I believe that God is my rock, my fortress, my stronghold and His Son Jesus is the chief cornerstone of my salvation, then I need to stand upon that Rock and be strong for my wife and my daughter. If I holdfast to God and receive from Him the love, grace, mercy, forgiveness, longsuffering, strength, peace…if I get all these spiritual blessings and more from Him and know that He is with me and will not forsake me…then I am free to just stand there or said another way I am free to just “be there”. As I stand solidly on my faith and demonstrate the firm ground under my feet in Jesus, my wife and my daughter will take notice.
Standing on solid ground, I can be there for them to lean on when they need me.
Standing on the Rock of Jesus, I can stand firm if they need to climb up, lay down, and rest or just get a hug or a warm touch.
Standing firm in God, I can be an example they can look to or point to in difficult times and be encouraged.
If I am standing with Jesus, I will be what God wants me to be for my wife and my daughter. It isn’t about what I am getting from my wife or my daughter, but what I get from my Abba Father and Elder Brother that matters. When I get that spiritual strength through faith and abiding in Jesus, I then can give of myself in a way that is most beneficial to my wife, my daughter and my family.
Sounds crazy, but give it a try. The next time things are going crazy, the house is hectic, there is more to be done than hands to do it…just stand still with Jesus and holdfast to Him as you hold onto her and that will make an eternal difference.