In Joshua Harris’ book, I Kissed Dating Goodbye, he writes about God’s gift of singleness. One of the headings in chapter 4 reads this way:
My unmarried years are a gift from God.
Sometimes, we don’t see the blessings in front of us because we are in such a hurry to get to the next phase of life. That is true for pretty much every stage of life. We are in junior high, and we can’t wait to get to high school. We can’t wait to drive. It’s winter and we want summer. We want kids, and then look forward to their eighteenth birthday! We can’t wait to retire, and then we sit around and long for the good old days. What if we stopped and thanked God for where we are in life right now? So many times in life, I’ve found myself looking over the fence to the next goal, the next phase in life. I know that is true for many other folks as well.
There is a blessing in being single, young men and women. Of course there is nothing wrong with wanting to be married or pursuing marriage. But be thankful for where you are right now. Why would you want God to bless you for the next phase in life when you aren’t thankful for the current one?
I want you to be free from anxieties. The unmarried man is anxious about the things of the Lord, how to please the Lord. But the married man is anxious about worldly things, how to please his wife, and his interests are divided. And the unmarried or betrothed woman is anxious about the things of the Lord, how to be holy in body and spirit. But the married woman is anxious about worldly things, how to please her husband. I say this for your own benefit, not to lay any restraint upon you, but to promote good order and to secure your undivided devotion to the Lord.
(1 Corinthians 7:32-35, ESV)
Paul is not speaking against marriage at all, but he is talking reality. If you are married, you have a God-given obligation to care for and serve your spouse. In marriage you have vowed to become one flesh for life. There will be things you cannot do anymore simply because you have to take care of a family. That is not a negative thing, it is just reality.
So, that being said, you have a God-given blessing and gift of being single, so don’t be in such a hurry to end that period of your life.
Ask God to help you see the blessings of singleness. Thank God for this phase of your life. Pray for God to use you for His glory whether single or married.
And my God will supply every need of yours according to his riches in glory in Christ Jesus. To our God and Father be glory forever and ever. Amen.