Mother’s Day is coming on Sunday, so I thought it would be good to talk about some ways to honor moms, not just on Mother’s Day, but every day.
Honor her with respect.
Be nice to mom, whether you are sixteen years old or sixty years old. Men, give your mom a hug once in a while and tell her you love her. If geographical distance separates you, call her often on the phone. I know that my mom just loves to hear my voice. I don’t always call to talk about “important” stuff; I just call to talk to her. Respect her by fully listening to her when she is talking. Be engaged…turn off the TV or smart phone and give her some attention!
Listen to your father who begot you, and do not despise your mother when she is old (Proverbs 23:22).
Respect her by telling her often how valuable she is to you. A lot of guys just don’t do this well, but as men of God, we need to rise up and honor our moms with our words. We need to verbalize that honor and respect. Now I know that there are men who had a horrible childhood and a mom that did not love them, but I do know in those situations that there was often another godly woman in their lives that acted like a mom to them. Show honor to those “moms in the faith” as well.
Her children rise up and bless her; her husband also, and he praises her, saying: “Many daughters have done nobly, but you excel them all” (Proverbs 31:28-29).
Honor her by following God’s word and living right.
If your mother taught you about Jesus and about following God, what is the greatest way to honor her? By continuing on that pathway and living for Jesus.
For I am mindful of the sincere faith within you, which first dwelt in your grandmother Lois and your mother Eunice, and I am sure that it is in you as well (2 Timothy 1:5).
Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. “Honor your father and mother (which is the first commandment with a promise), so that it may be well with you, and that you may live long on the earth” (Ephesians 6:1-3).
Hear, my son, your father’s instruction and do not forsake your mother’s teaching (Proverbs 1:8).
My son, observe the commandment of your father and do not forsake the teaching of your mother (Proverbs 6:20).
Let your father and your mother be glad, and let her rejoice who gave birth to you (Proverbs 23:25).
“I have no greater joy than this, to hear of my children walking in truth” (3 John 4).
The words of King Lemuel, the oracle which his mother taught him… (Proverbs 31:1).
I really like the above verse in Proverbs 31. These words of a King came from his mother, and he honored his mother not only by living those words, but by reminding everyone the source of those words! It’s okay to tell your mom she is right once in a while! 🙂
Honor her by taking care of her when she is older.
“Honor your father and your mother” (Mark 7:10). The context here is when Jesus was talking to the hypocritical Pharisees about not taking care of their parents financially. The apostle Paul addresses this as well in 1 Timothy 5, by saying that children are to take care of their parents and grandparents when they are old, especially the widows. To honor her is to provide for her.
Consider the example of Ruth and Naomi, and how Boaz commended Ruth for all that she had “done” for mother-in-law (Ruth 2:11). There are times when our elderly moms could use some physical help around the house, and as sons and grandsons, we could bring the family over and get to work helping on those projects. Our wives can use help around the house, too! As husbands and fathers, we can be the initiators to get the kids working on chores to help take the burden off of mom.
Give your wife time to get away and to do something fun. Make sure you don’t make her feel bad about it, either! For a lot of guys it is easier to get away from the house and do the things we want to do, but what about our wives? Taking care of the kids, being asked a million questions non-stop on a daily basis, cleaning house and all of the other responsibilities are taxing! Make sure they have the ability to do this regularly to be refreshed and rejuvenated. Encourage them in it.
Thanks, moms! We love you!