Joseph, Being a Just Man

Now the birth of Jesus Christ took place in this way. When his mother Mary had been betrothed to Joseph, before they came together she was found to be with child from the Holy Spirit. And her husband Joseph, being a just man and unwilling to put her to shame, resolved to divorce her quietly. But as he considered these things, behold, an angel of the Lord appeared to him in a dream, saying, “Joseph, son of David, do not fear to take Mary as your wife, for that which is conceived in her is from the Holy Spirit. She will bear a son, and you shall call his name Jesus, for he will save his people from their sins.” All this took place to fulfill what the Lord had spoken by the prophet: “Behold, the virgin shall conceive and bear a son, and they shall call his name Immanuel” (which means, God with us). When Joseph woke from sleep, he did as the angel of the Lord commanded him: he took his wife, but knew her not until she had given birth to a son. And he called his name Jesus.
(Matthew 1:18-25)

Here are a few quick observations about Joseph:

  1. They were betrothed, but they had not “come together.” Joseph showed honor for Mary and for God by keeping their relationship pure (Hebrews 13:4).
  2. Being a just man and unwilling to put her to shame. When he found out about Mary’s pregnancy, he did not cast off his love and respect for her. He thought of what was best for her. He didn’t want to make a public spectacle of her. Joseph refused to put her to shame.
  3. But as he considered these things. He was not hasty in judgment. This young man took his time to really think about what to do. I’m sure all kinds of thoughts swirled around in his mind, but with God’s help and with patience, he deeply contemplated the next step.
  4. He listened to God and did as He was commanded by the angel. God was asking him to do some hard stuff, and Joseph was really walking by faith here. He had to trust God and Mary’s word, and he did it.
  5. Joseph “knew her not until she had given birth to a son.” Even now that Joseph is officially married to Mary, and has every “right” to participate in the sexual relationship with Mary in marriage, he did not do so. He waited for months and months until after she had given birth. Joseph truly was a man of honor and conviction.