“She is your companion and your wife by covenant…” (Malachi 2:14).
When a husband marries his wife, he makes a covenant not only with her, but with God.
What parts of me and my life are bound to that agreement? I know for many this is a simple answer, but we need to remind ourselves that all of our being made that agreement.
Your wife by covenant
Sometimes we can be pretty good at compartmentalizing our lives, and putting various parts of our lives in their neat little boxes. However, when I made that vow before God and Anna, every part of my being signed up for the deal.
God wants us to give our minds to them and to live with them in an understanding way (1 Peter 3:7). We have committed our value system to our wives, because we are to honor and cherish them (1 Peter 3:7). That also involves “my money,” which is not my money is it? My time is no longer my time, because now I am blessed to think of how I may take care of her and please her (1 Corinthians 7:34).
Jesus calls the husband to be loyal and committed to his wife in his heart as well (Matthew 5:28). Job made a covenant with his eyes, and that affected how he saw other women (Job 31:1). Your body is fully committed to her, and is for no other (1 Corinthians 7:2-5; Proverbs 5:15-20). Even my emotions are committed to this lifelong partnership, because I am to live joyfully with her (Proverbs 5:18; Ecclesiastes 9:9). Even my spirit is joined in to this covenant (Malachi 2:15).
The John Legend song says, “All of me loves all of you…” and I think that sums it up pretty well. I’m sure all of us as men have fought against that concept in one way or another in our marriages. Maybe instead of singing John Legend we were singing Meatloaf, “I would do anything for love, but I won’t do that!” When we truly commit to giving our whole being to this marriage, God will bless us for it.