Are you “strong enough to be her man?” No matter who the “her” is…whether it is mother, sister, daughter, wife…you are strong enough to be her man with God as your foundation and His blessings filling your heart. His grace, mercy, love, forgiveness, hope will produce peace that will be just what is needed in the best and worst of times in our relationships with women.
Peace is not the absence of war, trials or tribulations. Having peace does not mean that the women we love are not going to disappoint us, hurt us or lose their way. Peace does not mean that our women are not going to be hurt, have challenges, or be without distractions. Peace is not circumstantial but rather a state of being. Peace is the presence of God; the tranquility and serenity within the individual who is in a right relationship with God.
Read Paul’s words in Philippians 4:6-7. Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God; and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.
Find peace with God who is the source of peace. Take a moment and read Colossians 3:12-17 with a focus on verse 15. And let the peace of God rule in your hearts, to which also you were called in one body; and be thankful.
Draw near and Abide in Christ Jesus through whom God’s peace comes. Jesus calls us to Abide in Him (John 15) because He has already taken care of what we need and God the good gardener will continue to lift us up, prune away the dead parts and provide us with the fresh air and sunshine needed to grow and prosper. Therefore, having been justified by faith, we have peace with God through our Lord Jesus Christ… (Rom. 5:1)
Have peace with self. Take courage in Jesus’ words. Let not your heart be troubled; you believe in God, believe also in Me. (John 14:1)
We can then have a calmness and tranquility of mind knowing that God is on our side (Romans 8:23, 31). He WILL NOT forsake you. No matter how much someone else disappoints you, hurts you, or gets off track. God will not forsake you and you will be cared for here and retain your final reward and home in heaven. Allow this to build you up with a peaceful heart so that you can endure and be strong for others.
No matter how turbulent the times get, how loud the argument, how far the distance, how confused the situation…you have a voice! Take it all to God in prayer (Philippians 4:6-7).
Then, as much as possible, have peace with your women. (Romans 12:18; Hebrews 12:14).
God is our peace. He will reassure us. He will strengthen us. He will fill us with His wisdom and discernment. He will give us patience and endurance. He will pour into us His grace, mercy, love, forgiveness, and hope in such a way we can project that into the lives of our women and reflect for them the peace and eternal perspective God has called us to have in good times and bad.
You are strong enough to be her man…when you have the peace that comes from above.